Tips To Become Ideal Parents

Parenting is difficult. But the most ideal people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths because these persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.

As parents we would never wish ill on our children. In fact, the mere idea of their suffering can make us break out in a cold sweat. We work hard day in and day out to provide a safe, stable environment, and we attempt to give them as many opportunities as we can possibly find. We want our children to live in a beautiful, cheerful world of smiles and splendor. Our love is unconditional and deep. We can watch them sleep and feel our hearts melt. God has given us a great blessing with our children, and we do our best to cherish that blessing with every fiber of our beings.

Every one of us encountered trials and tribulations; unforeseen problems or consequences that may give us pause. Not one of us is exempt from this hard reality. We would not wish for a new cross or hardship to carry, but we would rather it be our suffering than our child’s burden. There are two important points to consider when obstacles arise: 1) adversity can lead to strength and 2) how our own endurance of hardship becomes a model for our children.

Time after time, we can see people fighting through their circumstances to bring something beautiful to life. Watching our children suffer disappointments, not getting invited to a classmate’s birthday party or not making an important team, is painful. However, disappointment is a necessary part of growing up.

Modeling appropriate behavior when things don’t go our way teaches our kids to handle disappointments. For example, you have taken your child on a wonderful vacation. At the end, you ask how he enjoyed the respite, only to hear “It was OK, but a lot of it was boring.” You may be crushed, but you can’t force your own expectations about spending quality time together on your child. The key is to not overreact with a hurtful response, but instead to ask a specific question such as “What was your favorite part of the vacation?” This type of redirection will encourage your
child to see the good parts of the experience. It’s important to step back and let the child use these new skills allowing him to be responsible for his/her own feelings.

Help your child find his/her strengths. One of the most common disappointments children faced is feeling they are not as good as their peers.Failure can turn into a blessing. It can be a motivator to study harder, to practice harder, or to attempt a different approach.

Success is not always about winning, it is more often about finding another path. Help your child find something he or she can be good at that matches his/her interests. If that is not an option, find another way to approach the goal that takes advantage of his/her abilities.

So, if your child is experiencing a disappointment, be at peace. Use this time to help him grow stronger, happier, and more reflective. By doing so, we teach our kids to become responsible individuals in the future.

Why Obedience Is Important

Disobedience can have a variety of causes. At times, it is due to unreasonable parental expectations.The defiance and laziness of unbelieving parents I can understand. I have biblical categories of the behavior of the spiritually blind. But the neglect of Christian parents perplexes me. What is behind the failure to require and receive obedience? I’m not sure. As parents, the first step toward helping our child change his/her behavior is to know or determine the reasons behind his/her frustrations.

Why don’t we use reverse psychology? We can help them through positive reinforcement. Because I was so happy with what he did, I kissed him and said, “Very good. I love you son.” By doing this, he was also very happy that he’d like to impress me more by showing his grades aside from doing household chores and he’s only 10 years old. Imagine that? From there I realized that these positive efforts will always be more successful than punishment.The key is early identification and treatment. It’s funny how that works isn’t it? Allow me to enumerate the reasons behind our children’s disobedience.

1. We are giving them too many chances. Mean what you say and say what you mean. EXPECT obedience the first time. Yes, I know that counting gets them moving but you are missing the point. If you find that you really feel compelled to give some sort of reminder with a very young child, try saying something like “I need you to obey.” This will remind them that there is indeed a consequence coming if they cannot get off the “fence” about your command.

2. We give confusing, conflicting, or hypocritical commands. Make sure your words make sense and don’t contradict themselves. A silly one would be “close your mouth and eat.” I’ve been guilty of saying this one and we always laugh because it’s impossible to do that! We also want to avoid hypocritical commands.

3. We are not considering their developmental ability. Don’t forget to consider your child’s ability here.

4. We have no authority. As our children grow into the moral reasoning stage (approximately ages 6-12) we better come up with something better than “because I said so.” If they don’t throw that out in these years, they will certainly do so in the teen years. We have more authority than that and we should use it. Sit down with our kids and show them in the Bible where God commands parents to train their children and discipline them Don’t do this when they are in trouble. Do this as a teaching time when things are calm.

Not that I make excuses but requiring obedience takes energy, both physically and emotionally especially if you are a single parent. I know that parents who do not teach their children to obey prepare them for a life out of step with God’s word. Children nowadays are very clever. They can easily sense if we are about to explode.

Parenting seems exhausting when our children do not obey us. All we want for our kids is for them to be obedient and courteous. Sad to say that sometimes, the opposite happens. I really feel depressed because of guilt. I keep on blaming myself because of my kids’ inappropriate behaviors. However, blaming ourselves won’t solve anything because gracious parenting leads children from external compliance to joyful willingness.

This article is about how we can discipline our kids with love. We can use the Bible as our source for teaching our kids on how to be obedient.

Tricks For Making Your Kids Responsible

Parents often confuse obedience with responsibility. Over time, most parents want children to accept ownership for a task or chore – the children do it because it needs to be done and accept that it is their obligation to do it. Over time, they may even initiate doing a task “because it needs to be done” – not because they are being told to do it. This attitude would be called responsibility. But allowing a child to “do it his way” will encourage a feeling of pride in accomplishment and foster a sense of responsibility.

Finding the balance between over-managing and under-parenting is an art. If you have ever wondered if you are being either too strict or too lenient, or if you are giving your children enough love, then you have stumbled upon considerations about the two important roles that parents have. Each has a part in helping your children become responsible.

You teach your children to be appreciative for what they have. Children need their parents to carry out both roles; healthy parenting occurs when children are raised in a home in which there is unconditional love along with clear boundaries, limits, rules and consequences.

Children feel capable when they have a sense of power, competency and control over their lives, believe that they can handle challenges and that they are able to make a contribution to their environment, and when they feel pride in accomplishment. These things will increase a child’s responsibility.

Not expecting enough or demanding enough of children. By carrying out the “Executive” role, parents can avoid the pitfalls of over-indulgence, help their children to feel good about themselves and learn to be responsible. This includes such things as: setting limits, saying no, holding children accountable, establishing and enforcing rules, setting expectations, encouraging children to give back, in some way assigning chores and making sure they get done setting and following through with consequences.

This needs action. As parents, there are endless things we want to teach our children-how to be thoughtful and caring, how to be creative and innovative, how to be trustworthy and honest, how to be a good listener, and much more.

It’s one thing to try teaching our child responsibility by telling him “You need to be more responsible and pick up after yourself.” It is much easier and more effective to encourage our child to make his bed if we do the same when we wake up. This simply means that we are physically present in our home.

Kids love to help. To them, chores don’t feel like work. Keep up positive vibes by offering specific praises for actions. Children will develop a sense of ownership for any repeated action.

But sometimes, parents are afraid to let kids suffer, be sad or angry, but if we always solve children’s problems, they will not learn to be responsible as they grow up.

This article will help us, parents, to teach our kids to become responsible individual in the future.

All About Brain Development For Your Baby

Some individuals might find it very interesting or challenging to interact with infants since they cannot do much yet. But if you are more focused on ensuring that they will develop optimally as well as secure a huge advantage in life, there are indeed a lot of activities that you can and must do with them.

Some find these activities very enjoyable since it is like you have a very dedicated audience all the time; however, one excellent benefit that can be obtained from these activities is how they can greatly support brain development in infants.

Activities You Can Do With Your Child

Reading Stories – When you’re reading to your child even before he was born, then you need to do so even more now that he can see and feel you. And as you read stories, you must show him the very colourful pictures in the books. Though his interest might not last long, you can trust that exposure will have an impact on the memory of your child.

Making Music – You can use the items your child normally uses like his spoon, toys and bowl to make music. This will help you in introducing the idea that there are things that don’t have one function when manipulated in a completely different way.

Sensory Game – You can introduce materials to your body. These include pillow books, stuffed animals, wooden blocks and musical instruments. Let him touch as well as listen to these items. Bear in mind that the sensory experience will help create an imprint on his brain – something that can help him with association as his brain development progresses.

Product Demonstration – Give your child different props like your phone, comb, rattle, cup and spoon. At first, you must orient him the right use of every object and then praise him when he is able to copy what you have demonstrated. If you do such, you will be teaching him that things have their own names and specific purpose.

Name Game – Even when your child can’t speak very clearly, making him repeat the names of people and things will indeed help improve his memory bank.

Discovery Game – Place different things in a box and just leave it in front of your kid. Make sure though that he will not put anything in his mount. This will be an excellent sensory experience for him. Also, this will be a great opportunity to see the items he naturally inclines to.