Parents often confuse obedience with responsibility. Over time, most parents want children to accept ownership for a task or chore – the children do it because it needs to be done and accept that it is their obligation to do it. Over time, they may even initiate doing a task “because it needs to be done” – not because they are being told to do it. This attitude would be called responsibility. But allowing a child to “do it his way” will encourage a feeling of pride in accomplishment and foster a sense of responsibility.
Finding the balance between over-managing and under-parenting is an art. If you have ever wondered if you are being either too strict or too lenient, or if you are giving your children enough love, then you have stumbled upon considerations about the two important roles that parents have. Each has a part in helping your children become responsible.
You teach your children to be appreciative for what they have. Children need their parents to carry out both roles; healthy parenting occurs when children are raised in a home in which there is unconditional love along with clear boundaries, limits, rules and consequences.
Children feel capable when they have a sense of power, competency and control over their lives, believe that they can handle challenges and that they are able to make a contribution to their environment, and when they feel pride in accomplishment. These things will increase a child’s responsibility.
Not expecting enough or demanding enough of children. By carrying out the “Executive” role, parents can avoid the pitfalls of over-indulgence, help their children to feel good about themselves and learn to be responsible. This includes such things as: setting limits, saying no, holding children accountable, establishing and enforcing rules, setting expectations, encouraging children to give back, in some way assigning chores and making sure they get done setting and following through with consequences.
This needs action. As parents, there are endless things we want to teach our children-how to be thoughtful and caring, how to be creative and innovative, how to be trustworthy and honest, how to be a good listener, and much more.
It’s one thing to try teaching our child responsibility by telling him “You need to be more responsible and pick up after yourself.” It is much easier and more effective to encourage our child to make his bed if we do the same when we wake up. This simply means that we are physically present in our home.
Kids love to help. To them, chores don’t feel like work. Keep up positive vibes by offering specific praises for actions. Children will develop a sense of ownership for any repeated action.
But sometimes, parents are afraid to let kids suffer, be sad or angry, but if we always solve children’s problems, they will not learn to be responsible as they grow up.
This article will help us, parents, to teach our kids to become responsible individual in the future.